The «why?» question with no answer
We‘ve all been there, frustrating about something and asking ourselves «why?”
Why him or her.
Most of us (I hope) will agree that 2016 was an irritating year for many reasons. We saw political correctness and the basics of respect go down the drain, making us wonder whether this was the «involution» of the species. We also wondered whether there was still a sane country on Earth.
Ok, not so much. Or much? Still not sure. 2017 ain‘t looking very bright either.
The fact that in such a short amount of time a handful of people were able to shake the world‘s social fabric so deeply has been worrying me, and many others, for a while. It happened so fast that we were forced to quickly reply in typical XXI century fashion: a rant of mean tweets. But the truth is that, as days go by, I am more and more convinced that although this might raise awareness, it is not leading to actual change. What is worse is that it might actually just be spreading the anger, inside us.
In this scenario, anger and frustration can often turn into very very dangerous things – you can ask Madonna who had to apologize for her speech during the Women March in DC arguing she «fell into despair» – because when the core of your values is so strong and you see them being threatened, taking time to figure out a strategy to reply with integrity might seem a waste of your valuable time.
This can easily turn into a vicious cycle. We might very easily end up eternally asking ourselves, why? But this why has no answer, unfortunately. Not at this point.
If you sort of agree with me, you‘re already thinking that now is the time to get proactive and focus on keeping the message strong and clear, but that will only be possible if we keep our minds sane and clear too. So let’s avoid falling into despair Madonna-style and join me on spreading the love (this is me definitely talking to myself, saying basically: keep calm).
1. Watch the news, but do NOT obsess
2. When someone doesn’t get you, keep your cool. Ignore the trolls and reply with facts, not Facebook headlines
3. Check regularly what actions others are taking, and check if they are working
4. Get sad, but not depressed. It won‘t let you think straight
6. When you are feeling exhausted after too much disgrace and executive order signing, close your Facebook, Twitter, etc and read a novel (that take-me-out-of-this-world novel should be REALLY handy!)
7. Never stop questioning yourself, no matter how right you think you are. It is a crucial part of understanding what you are facing
After all, that is empathy. Exactly what we are asking for, a lot more of it, and we should work to be eternal examples of it.